Expecting Intimate Care from Others (50)

Introduction

Sometimes we can observe a certain desire within ourselves and it is like this desire wants that we be intimately cared for and looked after. We want that someone love us very intimately in their heart and that they love us even more than they love their own selves or look after themselves. This sounds pretty selfish from the outside but it is very honestly something that we feel.

This desire comes to us from time to time and it can even be with us all the time if things in our relationship are not going well.

A Question we have to Ask Ourselves

A question pops up when we are feeling these things that I have outlined in the above introduction, and it is: What about us taking care of someone else in that way? “Can we expect someone to really love us more than they love themselves?”

Answers

Well the answer to those questions is yes and no. We can love someone that way, taking care of their intimate needs (but in balance not to our detriment), and we can’t really expect in reality someone to love us more than they love ourselves.

So we can control how we love, how we give but not how and what we receive. That is something that we often make the mistake in thinking that we control how we are loved and that is where a lot of our problems come from.

There is the Problem

The problem there is really our mistake to expect that someone can love us more than they love themselves.

However being realistic about this does not really help all that much, well it helps us to understand that we are being very selfish, over-selfish and unrealistic I would say, but the desire is still there.

Quenching this Desire

This desire can be quenched by ourselves doing what this desire is really asking for and that is give up on others taking care of ourselves intimately and do it for them and do it for ourselves.

From the Gnostic point of view we would say to take very intimate care of your Being and His or Its destiny and well-being. The more we love our Being and take care of Him/Her/It the more love will come to us. When we are wanting love from others we are forgetting ourselves and we are being mean to our intimate real Being inside us.

To take care of your Being is to take care of yourself because you come from Him and in the very end you are Him.

Self-love is something real but the self-love we have is the love of ourselves through the eyes of others, or in other technical words love for ourselves in relativity and duality.

Conclusion – Actually Taking Intimate Care of your Being

If you pray with loving words and you do all that you can for your Being during the day you are taking intimate care of Him. If you talk to Him opening your heart, expressing your worries and concerns you are being honest, trusting, loving and intimate with yourself and your Being.

Maybe that is what this desire is driving you to achieve and to do.

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Love as the Only Solution/Escape (49)

Introduction

Sometimes we struggle immensely in life over why we are not loved by people in general, and above all by people who are ‘meant’ to love us, such as partners, spouses, children, family and friends. Truly we can really suffer, from bouts of disappointment like depression to bouts of intense anger and ill-will. You know what the solution or the way to get out of such a terrible rut is to love, forget about receiving love and give love. This post explains way this is the best option all of the time.

Receiving Love

Receiving love can be really great but not so great when it stops or drops in frequency, intensity, duration and quality. We often start to think that something is wrong and that the person does not love us anymore or that we have done something for the person to not love us or that we are not good enough which is one of the worst emotions we can feel.

The Art of Receiving Love

There is a way to receive love from others and we have to know it. We have to teach ourselves actually how to receive and give love. However, because this section is about receiving love, we need to find a way to receive love that does not lead to pain later on, and curiously when we start to feel pain we start to give pain out.

The way to receive love is to receive it with an open mind and heart and with gratitude but never becoming dependent on it. Never to start to see that we only exist or we are only valid when we receive love from others. If the perception of ourselves or our self-valuation or self-worth is based on or is referenced to or is relative to the amount, quality, duration and intensity of love received then we are really going to suffer. Why you may ask, well the answer is simple. It is because we can not control the love others give us (we try though but that does not really work for us) and so there will always be times when we don’t receive love and or we receive less love than before and therefore we will feel pain, of course if we still think and feel in the same old way that receiving love is the only reason for our existence.

Only Receiving Brings Suffering

We suffer because we are very one sided we only want to receive and maybe the reason why we are not receiving any love is due to karma, that is we have not given out love. Karma manifesting as the pain we feel, it is there to teach us, that is to teach us that we need to love too.

Controlling Love

Basically the only way you can control the amount of love you receive is to give lots of love yourself. We can always control how much love we give, but to control how much others give us is not good at all. It always leads us into trouble. We actually end up ruining that which we love and want love from. You know sometimes when something is in our heart we can not stop loving it, put whatever you want to love in your heart, that is a key that never fails. Once something is in your heart you will never stop loving it.

Giving Love

When we are unhappy, disappointed and we are not receiving love, we actually in our mind go against the other person and we don’t think very highly of them at all. We are disliking them actually, just observe that the next time you feel that you are not receiving love. We become less generous, less, friendly and less open and good willed toward them. We are not loving them in our mind and heart and how can we expect them realistically speaking to love us back or to love us more when we are not loving them. That is crazy but we actually do think and feel that way. But if we are to give love we will get it back and if you open your mind and heart others will be like that towards us too.

The Solution

The solution is to give love and if you do it you will see how magically things change and turn around. Basically stop being demanding and give love, we when we do that feel much better, because we are giving love and we are polarising ourselves with love and so we feel love and when we feel love we are in love and giving, receiving all melt in together into the one state of love.

A limit

Of course though there is a limit and there it is if the person does not love you back and mistreats and disrespects the honest love that you give them, then we need to drop our love back a notch or two. That is easy to do if we are not dependent on the other person. That is why so many people stay with partners that are abusive, because they are dependent on them and as soon as that dependence finishes or abates the one getting abused feels free to leave.

You know we can only really love consciously when we are not attached or dependent. We have to discern when this limit or line has been crossed, but don’t worry we will know it naturally, almost instinctively in fact.

Conclusion

The main key here is to take away any ill-will in your mind and heart and open up your mind and heart to the person and give love. Depart from yourself, stop being worried about how much love you are receiving and give love instead, and by the law of cause and effect you will receive it. Just wanting and waiting to receive love will not bring it to you! You must also understand that another person’s love does not make you complete, you are already complete, because even if that person does not love you nothing in you stops working, your life goes on, your heart still beats and you still have your inner divinity within you loving you and sending you its life force.

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Principal Psychological Profile (PPP) (48)

Introduction

This post among many more to come about the Principal Psychological Profile, commonly known as the PPP describes what the PPP is.

What is the Principal Psychological Profile?

The principal psychological profile or chief characteristic is a part of our psychology. As the name suggests it is a very important part, actually it is the predominant part. It is the part that colours our psychology, it is the part that makes up our psychology and it is the part that forms the nature of our egoic psychology.

The PPP is Ever-Present

The PPP is something that is present in virtually every one of our psychological processes. It is the one that sets the mood to our everyday egoic psychology and it is one that sets the backdrop to our psychology.

It is something that stays more than goes, other egos come and go but the PPP is mostly always there forming the nature of our egoic psychology and it is so natural that we don’t know that it is there and we don’t suspect that it is there. That is why it is so hard to find out what it is when we decide to look for it. We often overlook it and think that it is lust, fear or anger because they can be very intense in most people, if an ego comes and goes then it is not the PPP, the PPP stays more then comes and goes.

Egoic Structure

Our egoic psychology certainly has a structure it is not an ad hoc random mess it has a structure and centre to that structure is the PPP. The PPP is the central framework of that structure and if our egoic structure were a tree it would be the trunk of the tree and the branches would be the egos, the seven capital egos and the leaves would be the many facets.

Behind our Fall

The PPP is behind our esoteric or spiritual fall and it is the one that provoked our fall, so in it is a lot of karma and behind it are certain causal factors.

5 Years of Work

Master Samael said that it takes a person 5 years of observation and work to discover and concretely confirm the existence and specific identity of ones’ PPP.

50% of Our Egoic Structure

Master Samael said that if one was able to dissolve their PPP they indeed would have done 50% of the work required to fully dissolve all of their egoic structure.

In the Next Post

In the post following this one, we will talk about some more characteristics of the PPP and this will lead us onto some of the ways that we can discover it in ourselves. We will following this talk about how we can work on so to weaken it.

Conclusion

I think that I could conclude this psost by saying that to accelerate the dissolution of one’s egoic structure knowing one’s PPP is crucial. If we work on it we will inadvertedly weaken all the other egos. You know if we follow Dante’s advice from the second book of his Divine Comedy we will see that Pride could well be a candidate to be a PPP as he described that when pride was overcome/dissolved in the first terrace of the island of purgatory, the six remaining P’s (‘P’ standing for peccatum, sin in Latin) marked on his forehead, where each P stood for a capital sin were weakened.

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When it is Lust and When it is Not! (47)

When it is Lust!

It is lust when we engage in sexuality, even in thought and emotion and we do not have love, respect, care, consideration etc. within us. I tis also lust when we are trapped in or are only focussed on sensation, senses and matter. These four major indicators: devoid of love, care, respect etc., senses, sensations and matter are sure signs that lust is in our human machine.

Lust always, always refocusses sexuality into these bottles or conditioners.

When it is not Lust!

We usually think that no sexuality or no sex or abstinence is no lust. That is true to some degree but there can always be a heavy amount of lust in our mind.

The general indication as to know when it is not lust is when there is sexuality and there is love and the main focus is spirituality or a spiritual purpose above senses, sensations and matter. Or there is of course no sexuality and the mind and emotions are completely clear.

Conclusion

Use these indications to know when lust is in your human machine. Be honest with yourself and you will always be able to tell.

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Separate Lust from Sex (46)

When it is Lust!

It is lust when we engage in sexuality, even in thought and emotion and we do not have love, respect, care, consideration etc. within us. It is also lust when we are trapped in or are only focussed on sensation, senses and matter. These four major indicators: devoid of love, care, respect etc., senses, sensations and matter are sure signs that lust is in our human machine.

When it is not Lust!

We usually think that no sexuality or no sex or abstinence is no lust. That is true to some degree but there can always be a heavy amount of lust in our mind.

The general indication as to know when it is not lust is when there is sexuality and there is love and the main focus is spirituality or a spiritual purpose above senses, sensations and matter. Or there is of course no sexuality and the mind and emotions are completely clear.

Separate Lust from Sex

So in the case where we have sexuality but no lust we have to separate lust from sex. We think that they are the same thing but they are not. Lust and sex are very different. Lust uses sex but sex itself has nothing to do with lust.

So if this separation is made, there can be pure sexuality without lust. Lust always diverts sexuality into the senses, sensations and matter. It always refocusses sexuality into these bottles or conditioners.

Sex is Itself Free from Lust

Sex is the means of by which creation happens, I really don’; think the creators that gave this creative power to men, animals and the plants meant for lust to be created. Lust is not creative, it sabotages the creative force and ruins it, lust destroys actually. Sex is a great creative power and is the life force of the Being and is also one’s life energy and vitality which has nothing to do with lust. In fact when one works on lust one’s vitality and energy increases dramatically.

Conclusion

It is very advantageous to make this separation within oneself so that we can start to use our sexual force without the interference of lust and we can come to open the door of the sexual mysteries that unfortunately human beings due to lust know nothing about at all!

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The Ego is in our Genes (42)

Surprising at First but Makes Sense!

To someone who has worked on the ego for a while, this statement that the ego is in our genes becomes ever-so gradually more apparent, especially in relation to some egos. It is not so apparent in all the egos but in some, in the rather large ones that we have it can be quite apparent.

Parents

If you have the luck of having your parents still with you, you can by observation really come to verify this statement.

The theory goes in Gnosis that the egos that we have, have a genetic component to them. We actually inherit in our egos certain characteristics that are present in the egos of our parents. This is even true when it comes to our personality. Our personality has many traits or characteristics that come directly from our parents.

This does not apply to every characteristic in us, it only seems to apply to some of our personality traits. Mind you environment and impressions builds our personality and much of our environment that we are brought up in, is strongly coloured by our parent’s personality and egos.

Some Egos

It can happen that some of the egos we have, repeat or strongly wish to repeat the dramas and mistakes that our parents have made. In a way the more we know about the egos of our parents the more we can get to know the future desires of the egos that we have. Mind you, this does not apply to every ego that we have, only very particular ones, such as lust, anger, pride, self-love etc.

Conclusion

In our genes are the genes are of our parents and in our genes are certain characteristics that are also in our egos. By careful observation of our egos and the egos of our parents we can verify this, by noting the similarities between their egos and ours.

So then, our Divine Mother has a great work to do when we work in the elimination of eh ego, she has to work within our genes to eliminate the ego from within our genes. So then in conclusion, the work of the dissolution of the ego modifies our genetic structure and therefore our very own biology.

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The Sleeping Essence does not Know it is Wrong (45)

Sleeping Essence?

By sleeping essence we mean the essence trapped or bottled in the ego. By ‘bottle’ (symbolic) we are referring to conditioning, from the psychological point of view the ego is a degree of conditioning. From the esoteric point of view the ego is a metaphysical entity or a bottle or container trapping a piece of essence.

The sleeping essence is the conditioned essence, its conditioning has trapped it into thinking, feeling and acting in accordance with its conditioning and this very same conditioning has also lulled it to sleep.

The conditioning of the essence is very peculiar, it is a conditioning that is polarised in duality. The sleeping essence is polarised in such a way that the sleeping essence processes itself or generates thoughts, feelings and actions in a way that is opposite to the ways of the Being.

Sleeping Essence does not Know its Own Conditioning

The very strange thing is that the sleeping essence does not know it is conditioned and furthermore it does not know that it is wrong.

IT is up to our consciousness and the free essence that we have to understand that the way that a given ego or sleeping essence acts is wrong. Then we, being our consciousness and free essence, have to tell that essence that is sleeping in the ego that it is wrong. We have to address it with force and with the help of the Divine Mother and get the message to it that it is wrong.

The Sleeping Essence Listens

Believe it or not the sleeping essence can listen to us and can obey. When the sleeping essence starts to wake up a bit and realise that it is wrong the force of the ego decreases remarkably. This is truly amazing!

Conclusion

Strive with urgency to understand that the function that any ego is fulfilling in life is wrong and that it can be done better and done by the Being instead. Realise deeply with your consciousness and free essence that its way of fulfilling its function is wrong and then begin to address it, telling it that is wrong, and if you have true comprehension and you do it sincerely you will find that the ego decreases massively in force. This really works!

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